My miscarriage experiences

I have to admit that I really hesitated before I decided to write so many personal moments on my blog regarding this miscarriage. I’ve always felt as though writing has almost been a way for me to make it through many tough moments in life. For me initially the decision was partly a way for me to cope through this loss but also to help update all those who I know truly care for me and my family. We’ve come to know so many people over the years and to be honest, it’s just so tough for us to stay in constant communication with everyone individually, especially after a loss like this. Though I admit I was slightly concerned to have so many personal moments publicly visible for the world to see, I have come to realize that this miscarriage and all the events that have followed it are nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, I almost feel as though it’s more important that I am willing to somehow express all the things that have happened not just for me, or for those I care about – but also for all those that may someday go through similar experiences. Maybe somehow I can help others that may be hurting so badly through the same type of loss I’ve experienced. I’m the one who’s experienced years of difficulties conceiving. I’m the one who’s now had three miscarriages. And I’m now the one who’s had 4 D&C’s – 3 of which were a result of this 3rd miscarriage. So I suppose I hope that in turn I may help others who may some day go through similar struggles. I’ve already been told my story has helped others understand or relate to this type of loss if they or others have miscarried.

Because of all this I wanted to make sure all of the blog postings I have written this past month and those that will follow that relate to this miscarriage are accessible from one central location. I have created this page that you can now access these posts a little easier. And though I initially was hesitant to write so much publicly, I’ve now come to realize that this has helped me and will likely help many others. So I welcome you all to share that link if you feel it may help someone else struggling with a similar experience if you think it will help.

  • Our Loss is Heaven’s Gain (October 2, 2009) – The day I learned I miscarried for a third time.
  • Looking back at the last week & ahead at the next (October 4, 2009) – A photographic reflection of the last week I was pregnant along with personal thoughts before the first surgery.
  • The calm before the storm (October 4, 2009) – More thoughts before the first surgery.
  • In the arms of an angel (October 5, 2009) – More thoughts before the first surgery.
  • Recovery (October 5, 2009) – Updating everyone after the first surgery.
  • A few happier moments (October 7, 2009) – My first escape from the house after the first surgery and a few happier moments since the first surgery.
  • Growing pains & More (October 8, 2009) – Thoughts following the first surgery.
  • Thank yous, birthdays & our luck (October 10, 2009) – Sending thank yous out to everyone.
  • Anniversaries (October 11, 2009) – Our wedding anniversary was tough to celebrate less than a week after surgery.
  • Jaylen’s second birthday (October 12, 2009) – Jaylen’s birthday fell just one week after surgery.
  • Recovery Update (October 14, 2009) – 9 days after surgery I went back to the doctor after bleeding a lot more than normal and learned tissue remained from the first surgery.
  • Surgery, Again (October 16, 2009) – 11 days after surgery I went back to the doctor to learn I would have to go through surgery a second time that same day.
  • The unexpected third surgery (October 19, 2009) – After bleeding excessively I returned to the doctor just two weeks since the first surgery and 3 days after the second surgery to learn I needed a third surgery that was performed that same day.
  • The scary medical wait begins (October 21, 2009) – An update from my follow up appointment detailing the medical concerns I was faced with after 3 surgeries and since learning I potentially had a heart shaped uterus.
  • A few good moments, my photography logo & web site (October 22, 2009) – An update with a little good news.
  • In the hospital again (October 23, 2009) – After experiencing pain for 2 days I called the doctor and they asked I go to the hospital to get checked out. I was admitted for the weekend.
  • My first day at the hospital (October 24, 2009) – Sharing my experiences after being in the hospital a day.
  • Day two at the hospital (October 25, 2009 – Sharing my experiences after being at the hospital a second day.
  • Finally I’m home (October 26, 2009) – Sharing moments from my last day at the hospital and once I arrived home.
  • A little reassuring recovery update (October 28, 2009) – An update after a follow up visit to the doctor.
  • My weekly recovery update (November 4, 2009) – An update after a follow up visit to the doctor.
  • A few random updated (January 28, 2010) – Sharing my miscarriage type book and news about the upcoming HSG procedure.
  • Hysterosalpingography (Feb 2, 2010) – An update after the HSG procedure.
January 16, 2013 - 5:46 pm

Kristina - Wow. You are amazing. There is no doubt that you are helping so many people by posting all of your stories. I just finally posted about a miscarriage I had at 12 weeks back in 2010 and my journey through my “unanswered prayer”, and it was hard to post and make it visible to the world wide web, but I too am hoping that someone will receive strength from it. I also posted a beautiful song that I’m sure you would love having gone through an experience like this.
It’s at if you are interested in listening to it (but not if you don’t want to cry!)

Thanks again for your posts.

March 13, 2014 - 8:50 pm

Hillary - Wow, you had such a devastating loss, I am so sorry to hear. You are so strong to post your story publicly for all to read. I definitely know your story will help other grieving parents out there of angel babies.


March 26, 2014 - 12:06 am

April - You are an amazing strong individual. thank you for sharing your story.

May 3, 2014 - 5:08 am

Cara Goldenberg - Read my experience attached. Lost a fiancé a friend and a baby inside of hours.

May 3, 2014 - 5:08 am

Cara Goldenberg - Please see my story above.

July 25, 2014 - 12:37 pm

Hope - Hi, I was strengthened by blogs and have started one to find some hope online.
Sometimes it is a very lonely journey.

August 25, 2014 - 11:50 am

Cindy - I am experiencing a miscarriage for the first time ever. It has to be the most pain I’ve felt in my 31 years of living. I almost fainted last night I thought I was going to pass out. I really do feel sorry for all the women that have to go through this. It is absolutely terrifying. I’ve been reading so much about this and it is more common than people know of. A little part of knowing that makes me feel a little bit better.

May 21, 2015 - 11:09 pm

Missy Hopeful - I have also been experiencing grief after 1 ectopic pregnancy and 2 miscarriages. Have started a blog like you to jot down my thoughts and reassure myself that there is hope.

June 22, 2015 - 9:29 am

Angelica - We lost our baby this year the day after mothers day and it doesn’t get any easier to deal with it actually gets harder as this was a planned pregnancy and we were so very excited. We lost our baby at 12 weeks. I wrote a blog about it to help other women, please go read and share!

June 24, 2015 - 11:15 am

lizzy - It’s not only women who needs vitamin. Men also need vitamin visit and buy and learn about it now.

September 30, 2015 - 12:24 pm
May 21, 2016 - 4:01 pm

Danielle Finch - I had my miscarriage May 19,2016 at 10:30pm. It’s very disheartening. I cry everytime someone asks how am I doing. And even though Doctors and your family say it’s not your fault. I keep thinking maybe if I could have done something different, My baby would still be developing. It’s tough but I’m keeping myself busy. Maybe one day I’ll be blessed with a beautiful baby. Hoping and keeping faith.

October 24, 2016 - 7:30 am

Laura Percival - Please please sign and share my petition to help the NHS have a better understanding towards miscarriage

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